We have all done it. Someone says or does something that triggers an automatic response. We get the overpowering urge to speak up, flare up, or shut down. When we have such an internal reaction we don’t really have to let it control us.
We can pause, not act, breathe. We can watch this urge arise, then let it go away. Sometimes that takes a few seconds, other times it means we should remove ourselves politely from the situation and let ourselves cool down before we respond.
Pause. Watch the reaction go away.
At first, you might mess up. But in time, you’ll know yourself well enough to expect this reaction, and you’ll get better at the pause. Don’t fret if you mess up — just resolve to be more mindful when it happens next time. Take note of what happened to trigger your reaction, and pay attention when something like that happens again.
Be mindful, pause, then consider a thoughtful, compassionate response.
Know you are blessed,